6 Ways to Let Someone You Love Go

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In my opinion, relationships are getting harder. Even more so, recognizing it’s time to say goodbye to someone you once loved (or are still in love with) can be extremely challenging even when you know it’s the right thing to do.

1. If you love someone let them go 

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Even though it is kind of a cliché, it is completely valid.  If you love someone and they don’t take the effort to be in your life, they are not worth it in the end.  If someone really wanted you to be in their life, they will stop at nothing to be a part of it.   

2. Write it down 

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Even though it was a big plot line on Friends how horrible pro/con lists are, I have to disagree. It is perfectly okay to write everything down because sometimes things don’t make complete sense in your mind. The only thing is, keep these thoughts to yourself. Write it down just for you, not a fun thing for your friends and you to write to bash an ex.  

3. Listen to your friends, but trust your feelings over theirs

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Friends, they sometimes know exactly what they are talking about, but sometimes they can cloud your judgment and make you feel a certain way about your past relationship.  Also, the best way to get over someone is to stop talking about them.  If you can’t get your mind off of someone, talking to your friends about it for hours may not help you let go.  Talk about it for a little, then move on to a happier subject.

4. If you promise to stay friends, don’t do it right away 

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 Personally, I think if you truly did love this person and saw a future with them, it is best to completely cut ties. Nothing good comes from checking in on an ex or seeing them on your social media feed. But, if you want to stay in eachother’s lives wait a little for everything to settle.  There’s no need to instantly be great friends with an ex, give it a little time and figure out if they’re someone you need in your life.

 5. Distractions are the best thing ever 

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I’m going to leave this one up to you for interpretation. You can either take that painting class you’ve always wanted to take, or leave your number for that cute waiter.  When you end a relationship, you’re going to miss having that love, someone that’s always there to talk to, so distract yourself.

6. Take all the time you need 

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 We all know those people who are constantly in relationships, and the reason they’re relationships never last is they never give themselves time to mourn the previous relationship. When a relationship ends, it is important to take all the time you need to move on, which will help you have more of a successful relationship in the future. Whenever I end something, I feel a little pressure from people to just jump right into something. 

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 Our culture has created these nothing relationships, where people get instant gratification with no feelings or complications. If that is something that works for you, that’s great, but if you’re not about that life, don’t let anyone tell you you need to move on.

Long Distance Relationships

Everyone knows how it feels to have long distant relationships.  Weather it be you and your best friend sense kindergarten when to college thousands of miles away or your spouse is serving their country over seas we all have felt the horrible pain of missing someone.  I’m just kinda going with the flow for this article so Just go with it but not in the crappy Adam Sander movie way.

First in this post I’m going to focus on your long distant relationships with your friends.  Everyone moves on in their life and when they move on they have to leave their friends behind.  The thing to remember is you’re not leaving your friends behind your just making a change.  The biggest problem in this is you worry more about that something is going to change and you won’t be friends anymore but its more important to stay connected to your friends.  Start a group message, arrange weekly Skype calls.  Chances are your friend is feeling the same way.  A great why to stay connected and show your friends that you care is send little care packages even if it’s even a letter trust me they will appreciate it.  
For people who are in romantic long distant relationships I have to commend you on trying to make it work.  Those of you who have loved ones over seas I wish I had your strength to work and show your love to your loved ones.  The first thing I have to say is that long distant relationships are fucking challenging.(Sorry I had no other way to form it).  The only positive about long distant relationships is when you finally see that person you’ve been wanting to see for so long its wonderful and then it ends and you go back to your normal life.  It gets to the point where you feel alone, and the only thing to help with feeling alone is getting distracted.  Find a hobby connect more with your friends.  
Now comes the hard part making these relationships work.  Communication is the biggest part of making these relationships work.  There are so many couples apps like feel me, pair, and couple.  The best thing to use is Skype or FaceTime because then you can at least see their face and hear their voice.  
Another Idea for making these relationships work is send each other little love gifts.  A classic idea is sending a message in a bottle another idea is making little cards that your significant other can open when a certain thing happens in their life.  For example open when you’ve had a bad day…
Finally my advice is make sure your relationship is worth the pain that you are going through from being away from this person.  Makes sure that the relationship is something that has a future and that your relationship is going to progress in the future and not crash and burn the second you come home.    I know personally that this can be hard but don’t let it overcome your life and have trust in the relationship. 
love, Cara